The Listening Depot

Active Listening Isn’t Just for Grown-Ups

admin — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 06:33:04 +0000

The New York Times reported recently on Dr. Harvey Karp’s recipe for active listening for toddlers. I love his approach, which involves putting yourself in the toddler’s space and communicating with them on their terms. “Dr. Karp’s method of toddler communication is not for the self-conscious,” says the Times. “It involves bringing yourself, both mentally and physically, down to a child’s level when he or she is upset. The goal is not to give in to a child’s demands, but to communicate in a child’s own language of ‘toddler-ese.’”

This entails reflecting back to the toddler, in their own language, what they are saying, letting them know that you hear them. Just like the active listening you — you effective communicator, you — use when you communicate with adults. Only you’re saying stuff like, “You want cookie. Want cookie. Want it now. Want it now.” While simultaneously reflecting the child’s expressions and gestures.

I’m going to pitch this approach to all of my friends who have small kids. Mostly because it makes sense and works, but also because watching this new breed of super-parent in action will entertain me to no end.

Karp is the author of the best-selling book, The Happiest Baby on the Block. If you want to see a bit of this, there’s a promo video about Dr. Karp on YouTube (if you have a low tolerance for Dr. Phil and schmaltzy network-TV promos, it’s probably best to skip this one).

Convergence at Seacompression

admin — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 04:33:29 +0000

Late in the evening at Seacompression 2007, my African drum & dance, roller derby, and Johnny Jetpack worlds all came together. As Eric Wilson, Philip Seward, Barbara Crummins, and I were putting together some pretty rocking drum-jam grooves in the shadow of Johnny Jetpack’s amazing light installation (which also included some fun with liquid nitrogen a little later on), a Rat City Rollergirl (Jo Jo Stiletto?) rolled through the crowd of dancers, which included two of my favorite West African dancers, Gonya Loobey and Karen Sloane. It was a nice little moment.

Seacompression, Nov. 10, 2007

admin — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 01:14:43 +0000

Just got back from helping Nathan set up his latest Johnny Jetpack Propulsion Laboratory installation out at Hangar 30 at Sand Point. He has built a monumental (about 25 feet tall) display that will feature all kinds of cool lighting effects. He’ll also don the Traffic Director Suit and will do some liquid nitrogen effects and who knows what else.

There’s an installation nearby that has given me even more inspiration for next year’s Listening Depot installation at Burning Man. There’s a “Photo Confessional” that you can sit in and snap your own portrait which is then projected on to the wall. It’s highly interactive (come in, put on a costume and/or a hat, take your own pic, watch other people’s pix) and nicely designed. More on this, and maybe some photos, later.

Looks like Seacompression should be quite a fine party. Many huge installations and tons of music.

Welcome to The Listening Depot

admin — Thu, 06 Sep 2007 00:47:08 +0000

The Listening Depot is a place to be heard and to lend an ear. While it is sometimes presented as a location-specific installation, the idea can be realized anywhere, anytime - whenever two people get together with the intention of creating a safe, compassionate place for one of them to be fully and deeply heard.

The kind of listening we are interested in always happens in real time and space. While the telephone, the web, and e-mail are great communication tools for some intentions, they are not well suited for the kind of deep, compassionate listening we encourage. Eye contact and other forms of nonverbal communication are crucial to effective listening. All of our installations and events involve actual human beings interacting at the same time and place. While we will list include some resources and articles on this web site, we don’t plan to offer an online or other virtual form of the project.